Maturity

When you hear the word maturity, what's the first thing that pops in your mind? Me, it's age, which has almost nothing to do with maturity as I now understand it. I used to think that as we aged, we automatically became wiser. I've been often shocked to learn this isn't true. Many of my young students are more mature than many adults I've met...I wonder what it is inside some of us to become more mature as we age. When I think about it, maturity comes closer to being wise. I feel being wise is observing and asking lots of questions. It has a lot more to do with introspection. So many people are hurting and only know how to react and lash out. If we react in the same way, there will be more pain and it could potentially becoming a never ending cycle of hurt and pain. Now, when I have a negative physical reaction, I observe it and ask questions..."Why am I feeling this way? Did I do or say something to cause that person to do or say what I've perceived to be hurtful? Is there anything I can do or say to help clear this?" This takes lots of practice. It's natural for our bodies and minds to have a reaction but it's up to us to stop if from going to far. I am 100% responsible for my actions. If someone hurts me, that's on me. If I hurt someone, that's on me. I hope I'm on my way to not ever do or say anything that could cause pain, if that's even possible.. 

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